Big bro Cal actually went through some test or exam recently. I know every parent has expectation on their kids’ performance at school and sometimes it is the only time to know how well your kids is doing in school academically. I do have expectation on him, but I must say it wasn’t a really high expectation.
So, he got back his exam papers these few days. Some with flying colors though not reaching 90%, but there is one that I’m most concern of ‘cos he only get 58% which to me is fail. In my perspective, 60% is the passing marks. Yes, I was disappointed. I was worried. I was almost speechless when I see that paper.
It was after their bed-time where the boys supposed to be sleeping in their bed, but somehow Calvin woke up ‘cos he needed to change his clothes. So I called him over and have a good talk with him about my expectation and what he can do, or how he can achieve better results. I know it is only primary one, but if he doesn’t start now, it will be too hard for him later. He always has this mentality is that he can’t do it. He said “I wanted to, but… blah blah blah..” There is always this “but” in his sentences. So I assured him that he IS clever, he IS being loved, and he CAN do it if he wanted to, if he puts effort in it, if he seriously wanted to learn.
He cried, I cried. Yes, both of us have tears in our eyes. I told him if he can’t do well in his Bahasa Malaysia, he would need to spend another year in Bridge class if this continue. Of course I explained to him what is Bridge class. Of course he doesn’t want that, knowing that the little brother might over take him in his study.
I’m praying that he’ll take his promise and do what he intended to. I pray that at the same time, he will enjoy school life.
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Parents always have a lot of expectation on their kids. Have they looked back on themselves on Primary 1 many years back that they have experienced the same expectation from their own parents as well?
I am very sure, the answer is NO! I believe most parents have much of a joyful primary school instead of pressure. Personally, I prefer to go school everyday than to stay at home. But my elder son is having the problem of going to school. There must be something wrong there!
Well, when you tell a not even 7 year-old boy about putting effort in his study, I think you are just putting pressure to him. Why not find out what he really enjoys of going to school instead of doing well on what he is not good at?
Nuture his interest first, then transfer his interest to do the same thing on something that he is weak. With proper guidance, I think he will find it’s joyful to learn and excel in this poorest subject.
We are not borned with knowing everything, but we are borned with a heart to learn if we find it’s interesting. I am sure the interest to know something applies to every children.
So, find out the reason why your children do not like it, then help him to change his mentality to like it. Not to tell your expectation because his has no expectation in his dictionary yet.
Oh parents… please do not just transfer your expectation simply.
Dear, I can’t wait for you to be here soonest and to take care of him.