Be positive and stay positive

I’ve got lots of questions being asked last night. These are those that I can remember:

“Mommy, how were you like when you were small?” ”Do you have a big belly?” “What about baba?” ”Were you naughty?”

Complaints like:

“You were not (just) angry, but you spank/cane. You can just talk/tell me ma.. why you cane? I’ve already told you don’t to cane me.” (Which I promised later that I’ll not use the cane if he promise to listen.)

“Everyday is about ko-ko only.” “Everyday you say that he is good boy, you don’t say that to me.” (which I did!)

What I told him:

“Even when mommy is angry, mommy still love you, ok? (You get that?)”

Then he asked: “What happened when baba is angry with you?”

Me: “He still loves me.” (I had to affirm him on this, else everything gone down the drain.)

Another thing he said: “Ah Mah so bad, said that I’m shortie..”

Me: “Don’t believe what she said. You ARE handsome, ok?”

So I greeted both of them this morning with positive words such as “Handsome”, “Clever” and “Sweetie” (which the last one probably not so suitable, anyway… I did that.)

I’m telling myself I need to start my day with positive and happy thoughts and words. Smile when I felt most likely not. I did that this morning and it does make a different. Big boy Cal went to school without being grumpy and felt more confident in going to school.

Earlier on, I’ve go through his Malay Language spelling with him on Sunday, then he got full marks on Monday, I knew he can do it! Now I just need to go through with him whenever there is time and not only one language, he needs to learn English and Chinese too.

I know both of my boys need love and attention, not harsh words or discouragement in discovering things, they love to have fun too, just that I need to make sure that they don’t play rough.

This should be my biggest project ever, compare to house decoration *LOL*. Probably a project management software would help *wink*.

Still, am glad that my boys are fine.