Children are just curios kiddo who thinks that everyone are like them, love to play and would listen to them. To them looking for friends are just natural things to do, they won’t understand there are time limitation, adult intervention and sometimes certain situation that forbid them to do just that.
It so happened that Calvin wanted to look for the neighboring kids to play with, he wanted to visit them. As a persistent kid, he kept on asking for it in m hy in-laws’ house. Little does he knows there are story behind the whole thing of not letting him visit the kids next door. Little does he understand about how the adults prefer things to be done. Little does he knows that this provoke my MIL and got angry with him. Little does he know that he got into trouble just because he wanted to make new friends.
He got punished for being just that plus staring at grandma when she said he can’t go out. He has to kneel on rough surface just in front of the house, hold his ears with crossed arms. He said when Ah Mah was scolding him louder and louder, he got scared and started to cry. When I ask does he knows why Ah Mah punished him, he doesn’t even have a clue! That is the sad part for me. Without understanding why he was being punished, means the message didn’t really got sent through to him. No matter how painful the experience is if he doesn’t understand the whole point of it, it just doesn’t work and it will even make it worst. Another sad part was I believe my MIL punished him when she was angry with him. This will just sent the wrong message across to little Calvin.
After that incident, I felt so sorry for him, I regretted that I’ve sent him over so that they can spend some time with him. Calvin even got little Mer to follow him that day just so that he has company. I wish I have taken my day off to be with them during this school holiday. I wish I can bring them out more often and have more friends that they can look for. I wish my in-laws understand they way how I communicate with them. I wish..
I just hope my boys are not the cause of any fight. I hope my boys are kind hearted. I hope my boys are not violent. I also hope that my boys grow as happy kids, always.
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Sounds like a difficult situation. Don’t forget you can always talk to the kids afterwards and explain to them what happened, how they feel, the reasons that things took place, and let them know it’s not their fault.
Yes, totally agree with you. That’s what I did and hopefully he understand and won’t feel less love.
Poor him. I guess that’s just how his Popo style is, not realizing that you raise them a different way. Never mind lah Fon, at least you are able to make him understand a bit more of why it happened – and since you’ll never discipline them that way, they will think of you more as a goddess, bagus tu
Being the goddess is not an easy thing too *LOL*. Sometimes am their slave too. as they act like my boss :p