How they do it?

Sometimes I just can’t understand how some parents can be so patient with their little one who whines, ask for things especially when you wanted to do something else, use your stuff without asking, want you to carry him when you are already exhausted, play when it is way past bed-time. I just wonder how they do it, how they can keep their cool for not raising their voice, not even thinking to use the spank.

My boys always challenge me on this. They sing, play, cry out loud when it is way past bed-time. Especially my 2nd son, Mer. He wanted me to carry him down the car when he can just get down himself. He wanted me to see what he was pointing at when I was driving. He stands up on his car seat and insisted in doing that after I’ve told him not to. He refused to understand when I tell him we’ll only go to aunt’s place tonight instead of now.  As for my elder son, Cal. He just simply used my stuff without asking. He doesn’t shower when I told him so, not until I’m holding the spank, then he rushed into the bathroom.

I know I’m suppose to encourage them to talk with one another, play with one another or voice out their own opinion, develop their own thoughts, going to school to learn about being a good person instead of just about homework. But I just can’t stand it when they don’t listen or they listen and yet don’t follow instructions.

At the end of the day, I do feel guilty when I see their sweet faces while they were in their dreamland. Then I thought maybe I’ve been too harsh on them, maybe I’ve asked too much, maybe I’ve been too strict, maybe I’ve been selfish for not thinking on their shoes. On the other hand, I would worry that if I’ve been teaching them the right thing, or I’ve been using the right method to teach them.

I’ve also thought about all those “if”. If I have the 3rd one, would it change their attitude? If I didn’t stay with my parents, would it be different? If hubby is around, maybe they’ll behave differently? I may not have answers for all these “if”, but I suppose I need to look back on God, on how He would want me to discipline my children. But one thing for sure, they’ll treat me like how I’ve treated them plus how other people have treated them. I just wish that I haven’t been treating them badly.

I can go on and on about this and drag eveyone’s mood to zero, but I better stop and just face them again when I go home. By the way, if anyone want to learn about the best weight loss pills, by all means. But make sure you know what you are eating.